Desperation

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Sumandak in the house :)

Have you ever craved desperately for something and thought you would die if you can have them? Hahahaha…well, I have one. Actually it happens weeks ago, three days before the Chinese New Year celebration. What is it??? Naaah….take a look for the picture below

- seriously desperate for Snickers...hahaha -

Seriously, I don’t know what the hell had happened…suddenly I imagine the bars full with peanuts, nougat and the caramel melt in my mouth. I swear the feeling to have one is too much to bear (hahahaha). As a result, I visit every shop lot looking for Snickers and guess what…no one seems to sell it! ~ Please ignore that one, I think I am simply outrages for not being able to buy even one bar. The simple explanation is, its out of stock lah (~ ~) 

My last hope, went to CKS Menggatal. Mr. M took me there and I prayed “Please God, let them sell Snickers” hahahaha…I went directly to the candy corner and I almost cried when I saw the empy Snickers box! I went home with a broken heart…sob sob 

Moral of the story, sometimes if you are desperate on something please control yourself. Don’t let the feeling control you or you will end up hurt. If I was put too much on the desperation that day, I believe I will do everything I can and force Mr. M to drive me here and there just to look for that damn bars (uhuk uhuk). Thank God, I manage to calm myself down… 

When I related the Snickers story in my daily life, I can see the similarity in every angle. I saw my friends desperate to get attention and do everything they can just to be notice. When the attention didn’t return to them, they hit bottom hard. Some people cannot accept it, few of them got their lesson and learn something from it. What happen when you cannot accept it? Mostly, being in a tender age teenagers are always caught in this desperation issue. How many stories have you read or heard teenagers take their own life because of desperation? Or end up doing something that can ruin their future?

I saw parents who are desperate to choose the best bride/groom for their children. Choose the best candidates, whoever can meet their expectation such as their rank in the society not to mention wealth. Yes it is normal as parents to make sure their children get the best anyway it is not normal to me when they forget what their children really want. Some parents didn't bother to ask, whatever their decision is final and cannot be reverse back. Dragging along their unwilling children in the desperation to double the fortune, to be recognize as a respectable family or whatever you called it.

When I was in secondary school, I had this friend who is always tired and gloomy. After school, she had to attend two tuition classes. When she get home, she had to finish homework and do revision under strict supervision by her parents. I really pity her, I can see in her eyes that she really need a break. Education is important, no one can deny it. In a desperation to make children as a 'brilliant student' so they can boast about it to the whole world, parents seem to forget that their children is not a machine. Children become their victim of desperation. Push them, swing them to the fullest, press them to meet the expectation. With that action, anyone can go straight to over stressed. When it become too much, it can drive you crazy and makes you doing unexpected things.

See, desperation can turn you into a monster (hahaha) and worst it can affect peoples around you. In the end, the solution came back to yourself. I mean its all start with you, you create it and it must end with you. If it too much, let others help you. Remember to control it before it control you… 

How about you, do you have a desperation story or experience? Share it here, opinion are welcome...

I have a happy ending for my story. While visiting grandma, I manage to buy Snickers at Pekan Kundasang (huraaaay). Thank you God :) Can you see my glowing face?? hahahaha....

 

- very energetic after eat two bars Snickers, hahaha -

PS : This story is not suitable for research or whatsoever. Of course, my experience is real and really happen but it is just a story without supporting facts. I will improve next time and do some research before write something. Anyway, this one can do for now :) I also hope no one feel offended by this story. Sometimes, truth is hurt so please forgive me if I hurt you...

How To Treat Sunburn

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Sumandak in the house :)  

Yesterday, my sister text me that she just finish kayaking. Like everyone know, that kind of activity expose our skin to the sun. She had sunburn and asks for tips. Frankly speaking, I myself don’t know how to treat sunburn but as a big sister (hahaha) it is my duty to find and suggest tips for her. This is the time when Mr. G aka Mr. Google came to the rescue, just type what you want, hit enter and tadaaa...finish (hehe)

What is sunburn?
Sunburn is condition that occurs to skin that has been overexposed to the sun's ultraviolet (UV) rays. Too much time in the sun without protection can result in heightened sensitivity, redness, pain, and even blisters. Some may said that it’s OK to have sunburn because it’s not permanent and may heal over the time but read this…Keep in mind that sunburn can be more harmful than you though it is, if not instantaneously fatal. One of the most lethal outcomes of recurring sunburn is melanoma, a type of skin cancer. It was said that a person who have had sunburn more than five times in their lifetime has double the risk of getting melanoma skin cancer. Unprotected sun and ultraviolet exposure can also cause skins’ premature aging and constant exposure might even cause first or second degree burns and heatstroke.

The best way to avoid sunburn, don’t ever forget to wear sunscreen everytime you go outdoors. The sunscreen cannot protect you 100% from UV rays but at least it can reduce the reaction of sunburn. There are wide ranges of sunscreen lotion in the market, I recommend you to look for sunblock which has SPF (Sun Protection Factor) of 25 and above depends where you are going for outdoor activity. For example, activities at the beach require SPF more than 25. In case you are involve in water sport, look for waterproof sunblock. Higher SPF means more protection you get.

Basically, we cannot run away from sunburn. I mention earlier, sunblock cannot protect you 100% from UV rays. In my own experience, sometimes the heat is too much and I think the UV rays manage to find a way into my skin (haha). Be prepared when you got sunburn – the itching skin and you wish you live inside a freezer (hahaha). I believe most of us had an experience about this sunburn thing. Don’t worry, here is a few tips for all of us…

Ice cubes. Have a few ice cubes, put or wrap it in the towel. Then press the towel on your sunburn part. This method can help you to cool down your skin.

Aloe Vera. If you got this plant around your house, then you are lucky. Take the Aloe Vera leaf, open it and gently apply the jelly over your burn area. Repeat as often as you like. The jelly can help to soothe the burn skin and moisturize it as well. This method is highly recommended because Aloe Vera is frequently used as a treatment of burns. Furthermore it is cheap and natural remedies that you can find at home.    

You can get the Aloe product on most stores. But before you buy it, make sure it has a high concentration of aloe. Aloe Vera should be listed first or at least near the top of the list of ingredients. Avoid product where the water contain is more than aloe because it will not be very helpful. Also, be sure to check the expiration date, as aloe can lose some of its healing properties over time.

Yogurt. Use plain and fresh yogurt as a mask on your burn skin. First, put the yogurt in the freezer to cool it. The protein and fat ingredients of yogurt can help to trim down the pressure of sunburn on your skin.

Cool bath. Take a cool bath to help you more comfortable. Cool water will help lower your body temperature and reduce the heat of the skin. After bathing, dress in loose comfortable clothing and stay in out of the sun until your sunburn begins to heal. Be sure to get plenty of rest. Make sure you eat even if you not feel like eating, because you need energy to keep up your strength. Sunburn can be like any illness or injury depending on its severity, and your body needs nourishment to heal itself.

Above all, drink plenty of water as dangers of dehydration multiply with sunburn. Avoid alcoholic drink because it may increase the risk of becoming dehydrated. 

Don’t do these while you have sunburn :

Avoid soap because it can cause unwanted irritation

Don’t put lotion on burn parts. Lotion can seal the heat and clogs the stressed out skin.

If your sunburn start to peel, don’t scratch it. The action can cause further damage. Use calamine lotion to ease the itching skin.

Never try to open blisters! It can lead to a serious infection and leave a scar on your skin. In case, if the blisters give you unbearable pain along with fever or nausea, seriously you need to see a doctor. 

PS : That’s all :) If you have another remedies or tips, please share. Sharing is caring…     

- credit to Google for the pictures

A New Day

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Morning friends :)

A new day to start the day on the first day of February. I know everyone is excited to start the holidays (including me...hahaha), some maybe already start it. Chinese New Year is just around the corner, the traffic is smooth but wait till you see the shopping mall (hahaha)...

Orait, cannot make it long because I got 15 minutes before my times up. Do you want to improve your blog, get some advice or looking for an idea to write in your blog? Go to this site Sabahan Bloggers Club (We Teach Beginners, We Talk Bloggers, We Are Sabahan) Hope we can learn, teach and share with each other. Read the sample review here. The Admin got point there, of course after this will try to follow some of the suggestion and hope I can improve my blog after this. I am one of the admin there, see you there kio...

Orait barait, got to go. Cau cincau and see you all later (I am late!!)... 

PS : Siapa ada jual tarap sekarang??

How I Make Him To Quit Smoking

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Yesterday, I was reading Beaty's blog when I noticed this...Can u see the smoke. Bilala dia mau berinti ni merokok..Huiii..

Orait moi, I was in the same situation five years ago. Mr. M is a smokers, not just smoke for fun but I think he is addicted to it. I hate the smell of the smoke - I don't have a problem with smokers okay, I can mingle and respect their own choice of life. Its the cigarettes or whatever you call it...cannot accept that one. But why I fall in love with Mr. M, ask that question to God...hahahaha

In our early relationship, my brother told him the fact and advise him to quit smoking. But you know, you can't force someone to stop a habit just like that and I don't like pushing people. Anyway, we make a deal that he can smoke all he can but don't ever smoke in front of me. I really admire him in this because he agreed and whenever he is with me, he will try his best not to smoke :)

One day, we have this conversation and I ask him "Do you want to try quit smoking?". He said, "Do you want me to stop?". Then I told him, of course I want him to stop but do it for himself not for me...Do you see my point? If he stop just to please me, I am sure one day he will back to that habit. But if he do it sincerely, there is the chance he will stop forever...

After a long silence, he finally said that he want to give it a try but I must help him...waaaahhh. I was like, OK bos...whatever you want. I become his personal therapist for almost a year (hahaha)...Want to know how I  did it?

1. Food - He loves food but I read somewhere in the internet that a smoker cannot really taste his/her food.  Because their sense of smell and taste is not normal. Means he knows the food is delicious but compare to the non-smoker tongue, the taste is more than delicious.

2. Information - Seriously, I print out whatever I found in the internet. Graphics, articles...reason to quit or how to quit smoking. The effects of the smoke to others and to himself. I told him to read all the information before he went to bed...I also warn him the Withdrawal Symptoms, which happens on the first week - nausea, headache, sweating etc. It won't be easy and the temptation is too much but if you are determine to do it then there should be no problem.  

3. Reminder - I remind him once a week...Buying cigarettes is like you are making your own pre-order coffin  

4. Support - During the process, he have my full support. I give him a book and asked him to write down how he feel Before and After he quit smoking, plus the reasons why he want to quit smoking. No need to embarrassed because I am not going to read it unless he permit it...

After three months, all the efforts start showing some results. He said, his movement is easier, heartbeat back to normal...I almost can see his brown eyes sparkling, hahaha...He truly agree with me about the food and enjoying his food more than usual. He gained some weight and gained more until now! He has a bulge stomach I tell you...hahahaha

That's my own experience how I make him to quit smoking. I am not saying it is not as easy as ABC. You need to be very very patience and trust that he can do it. But in my opinion, whether you really want to let the cigarettes go or not...depends on the person. As I can say, I don't like to push him...but in the end, we both succeed :)

PS : I am not a certified therapist or whatsoever, this story is from my own experience. Whether you want to accept it or not, its up to you...and please take note that this story is for sharing purpose only. I didn't mean to insult or offense anyone but if I hurt you PLEASE FORGIVE ME...

Source of pictures : from Google

Christmas, According To You...

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- From : commons.wikimedia.org -

Every 25th of December, the world welcome Christmas with an open arms. Every wall filled with decorations, shopping mall play Christmas song non-stop, every corner at the shopping mall packed with peoples doing Christmas shopping…

According to Wikipedia, Christmas or Christmas Day is a holiday observed generally on December 25 to commemorate the birth of Jesus, the central figure of Christianity.

 - From : newvistawallpaper.com -

For me, Christmas is a way to thank Lord for what he had done to us the day he was born thousand years ago. HE spread the power of LOVE that becomes the greatest gift of all. And because of His LOVE, He sacrifices Himself for us…  

Other than that, Christmas means sharing Joy, Peace and Love with everyone especially your loves one, to forgive and forget. Give thanks for what we have right now, don’t forget to pray for the peoples out there who cannot afford even their basic needs. Remember, this time of year no one should be alone. Go meet peoples to share the joy…

According to you, what does Christmas means…

Joy To The World

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Every year at Christmas
All I can see
Are pictures of the things I want
Around the tree
But this year's a little different
I'm not thinking of myself
So my prayer for this Christmas
Is for somebody else

[Chorus]
So I pray
Joy To the World
Peace for every boy and girl
Hope when life is hard
Light when everything seems dark

God I know you're listening
And you can hear
The need of every broken heart
And all their tears
I don't have a lot to offer
Just this one simple prayer
That this Christmas everyone would know
Somebody cares

[Chorus]
So I pray
Joy To the World
Peace for every boy and girl
Hope when life is hard
Light when everything seems dark

I pray that every hungry soul
Will be filled and will be warm
That not a single, solitary child
Would suffer harm

And Lord we find their ending
As we take another view
My hope is that this Christmas prayer
Would somehow come true

I pray
Humanity would rise
And join with me
And together we'll sing

Joy To the World (To all the world)
Peace (Peace)
for every boy and girl (for every boy and girl)
(Talking bout hope) Hope when life is hard (when life is hard)
Light when everything seems dark

I pray that (I pray) every hungry soul
Will be filled and will be warm
(Not a single child) That not a single solitary child
Would suffer harm

And Lord we find their ending
As we take another view
My hope is that this Christmas prayer
Would somehow come true

Joy To the World
Peace for every boy and girl

Joy To The World (A Christmas Prayer) by Nicholas Jonas

Pink Ribbon

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Sebarkan mesej reben Merah Jambu

LEBIH 10 tahun lalu, rutin pagi Ranbir Kaur Toor sebelum ke tempat kerja sudah semestinya mengenakan bedak, gincu dan pembayang mata agar tampil cantik dan menawan. 

Seperti wanita lain, Ranbir berada di depan cermin tidak kurang 15 minit untuk menilik setiap inci wajahnya.

Ketika itu, dia tidak menyedari bahawa bukan hanya wajah yang perlu dipelihara, bahkan ada aset lain yang juga harus dititikberatkan tatkala merias diri iaitu payu dara.

Walaupun dia pernah mengesan satu ketumbuhan pada bawah payu dara sebelah kirinya, wanita berketurunan Punjabi itu tidak begitu gusar kerana pakar mengesahkan bahawa ia adalah benign iaitu ketumbuhan tidak berkanser.

"Saya masih tidak mengendahkan kepentingan melakukan pemeriksaan terhadap payu dara walaupun terdapat ketulan kecil yang dikesan pada tahun 1996," kata Ranbir, 49 kepada Kosmo!.

Imbas ibu kepada seorang cahaya mata itu, pada pertengahan Jun 2000, pakar telah mengesahkan bahawa dia telah menghidap kanser payu dara. Gempar dan gelap, ketika itu dunia Ranbir dirasakan sudah tidak bermakna lagi. Apa yang difikirkan oleh eksekutif kewangan di sebuah syarikat swasta itu hanyalah kematian.

Lebih menggawatkan situasi, saat doktor mendedahkan keputusan pemeriksaan itu, Ranbir tidak dapat menahan sebak kerana sedang mengandungkan anak keduanya.

"Ketika itu, kandungan saya sudah memasuki bulan pertama. Saya tidak dapat menahan perasaan kerana memikirkan bahawa bayi itu tidak mungkin selamat.

"Doktor menasihatkan saya agar melakukan pembedahan segera kerana kanser sudah menyerang dengan teruk," kata pekerja di syarikat Felda Engineering Services Sdn. Bhd itu. (read more here)

Five survivors sacrifice time to help raise breast cancer awareness

EARLY detection saves lives. That was the message that Ranbir Kaur Toor and four other women tried to get across as they worked the crowd during a recent breast cancer awareness campaign held at a hypermarket in Seremban.

The five women – all breast cancer survivors – were determined to spread awareness of the disease despite their own busy schedules.

They had volunteered their time to take part in a series of nationwide road shows organised by the Pride Foundation, a charity that aims to enhance awareness efforts and improve accessibility to treatment and care of breast cancer at all levels of society.

Ranbir Kaur, 46, a seven-year breast cancer survivor and mother of one, said the time she sacrificed to participate in the road show was well worth it as she did not want any one to go through what she had. (read more here)

Source : Kosmo and The Star


Related to this post

• Medicinenet.com / Breast Cancer 
• Pink Ribbon (Official Website)
• Pink Ribbon In Kota Kinabalu

A Smile

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 Lets have an easy Friday. Smile everyone, the weekend is coming :)

Here is a poem about SMILE. I hope you are smiling while reading it...hehehe

A smile costs nothing, but gives much. 
It enriches those who give it. 
It only takes but a moment, 
But the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. 
No one is so rich or mighty 
That he can get along without it. 
And no one is so poor 
That he cannot be made richer by it. 
A smile creates happiness in the home, 
Promotes good will in business, 
And is the cornerstone of friendship. 
It can perk up the weary, 
Bring cheer to the discouraged, 
Sunshine to the sad, 
And is nature's best antidote for trouble. 
Yet it cannot be bought, 
Begged, borrowed or stolen; 
For it is something that is of no value to anyone 
Until it is given away. 
When people are too tired to give you a smile, 
Give them one of yours. 
No one needs a smile so much 
As he who has none to give...

Finding The Lost Identity Of Blogger :)

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"Once you have been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, fact, habits, or goal about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged.
You have to tag the person that tagged you. If I tagged you, it's because I want to know more about you."

I've been tagged by Stella. So it’s my turn to do this. 
Thanks Stella for the tagging.  Here are the 25 random things about me (or should I say 25 things you must know about Sumandak Kinabalu...hahahaha)

1. I was born in Bundu Tuhan

2. I am the eldest daughter

3. Book is my obsession

4. Zidane’s loyal fan ( do you know this guy?? hehehe...)

5. I love to write a poem in the middle of the night, when I couldn’t sleep ^ ^

6. Crazily in love with Mr. M

7. The shortest in the family

8. CSI, Criminal Minds and Crime Investigation channel are my favorite TV show. Mr. M said I should become a detective…hahahaha

9. Always wandering at Crime Library

10. My favorite color is green…

11. Devoted Christian

12. Blogging in English but speak Dusun at home and Malay with friends…

13. There is something about 13 but I want to keep it for myself…hahahahaha

14. Love ice cream especially Vanilla flavour

15. Believe in ~ what you give, you get back

16. Blogging is my new addiction

17. Zezebel is my best friend

18. I hate when peoples throw away trash from their car! Seriously!!

19. There are 2 languages I want to learn if I have the chance ~ Spanish and Mandarin  

20. I want to build small library in my home…

21. Planning a trip to BookXcess (they sell the cheapest books on planet earth…hihihihi)

22. Planning a second trip to conquer Mount Kinabalu (chayo2)

23. Love to see things from a different angle…

24. I cannot start my day without a cup of coffee…seriously ^ ^

25. Last but not least, my ATM pin number is XXXXXX…hahahahahahaha

Okay, now you know more or less about me so it is your turn now. Let us know 25 random things about yourself. Hahaha…

I supposed to tag 25 people but I don’t like to choose. Whoever read this consider you are TAG ^ ^. But I know most of you already done this...

Yeaaah, finally finish my homework. Hehehe…